The post in which I do not wear a bra
by Karla ° Tuesday, January 8, 2008
I bought a dress yesterday to wear to my brother’s wedding. It was my third attempt to find one and I have pretty much resigned to the fact that they just do not design dresses to fit a woman whose body has less curves than a twelve year old boy.

I ended up settling on a flowy black halter style dress because it was on sale and because I was out of cookies to keep Nate occupied in the change rooms.

Now that I am nearing the end of the breastfeeding road, I can say with 100% certainty that my breasts are smaller than ever. And by smaller than ever, I mean practically gone. I have never exactly been a chesty woman, but once upon a time, I used a fill out a B cup rather nicely. What gives?

Anyways, when I got home after buying the dress, I realized that I don't have a bra to wear with it. The dress has a deep plunging neckline that dips down just past where the band on a bra would sit against your chest, and I’m not sure what that leaves in terms of options for, um… er… creating some much needed oomph.

Except for three nursing bras, I haven't bought a new bra in years and years. I know there are many brands out there that make bold cleavage-enhancing promises, but I have no idea what works, and what doesn’t.

So in summary, I no longer have boobs, I bought a dress that requires boobs, and I am now looking for a miracle bra that can be worn with a plunging neckline that will make me look more a woman, and less like a 12 year old boy.

Any suggestions you may have are greatly appreciated.


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YES!!! Go to Victorias Secrets webpage and look at their bras. Either there of Fredricks of Hollywood. THey both have regular or halter bras that have VERY DEEP plunging in the center. I think it would be perfect.
ALso, before I got implants (which I love and strongly reccomend after your are done having babies) I bought a Reusable silicone adhesive bra from Wal-Mart that was incredibly reliable and something called Buddies hold up tape off of ebay. I think I typed in 'boob tape' in the search part. Models and Celebs use Duct tape.....seriously!

I think you and the dress look great the way you are.
Posted by Blogger Eva :  January 08, 2008

TAKE the dress with you when you shop for the bra. Its the only way to be sure that it does what you want it to do. I've done that with 'challenging' dresses and its the only way to go. Otherwise, you end up with what you THINK will work and it rarely does. My two cents.
Posted by Anonymous Heather :  January 08, 2008

I'm with Eva on this one - I am not sure if you need anything based on that picture!
Posted by Anonymous Anonymous :  January 08, 2008

I think you look HAWT!

I hear ya on the after-baby boobs, though. I used to be a B. Now I'm a AA. That is SMALLER than an A cup.

Why even bother with a bra?

Posted by Blogger Angella :  January 08, 2008

I got nothin' left upstairs either. You look so good, though, tiny boobs and all, Karla. :)
Posted by Anonymous Amanda :  January 08, 2008

A doc told my friend after she gave birth twice that you lose much of your breast tissue when you have a baby. That's just totally not fair, but anyway Victoria secret Very sexy collection has just about anything you'd need in terms of bras. They definately work, I have many of them and they last FOREVER so they're definately worth the money, this is my all time fav and I can wear it with pretty much anything and I have cleavage out the wazoo!! I Promise I don't work for victoria secret. :)
Posted by Anonymous Stephanie :  January 08, 2008

you look great - but it's always great to have a nice reason to buy a not nursing bra!
Posted by Blogger Karen :  January 08, 2008

If I were you I would have the strap that goes around your neck shortened by about an inch and then go braless. When I was smaller busted I used to wish for big boobs. Now that I'm on the other side I see it the other way. To me a small chested woman who is willing to wear something like that with confidence is a very sexy thing. If you're going to hold your head down and feel unsexy you will come across that way. Think Cate Blanchett. Bold, sexy, and no apologies for her small breasts. She looks great. I think you could pull off that look.
Posted by Blogger Julia :  January 08, 2008

On second look, maybe I wouldn't have it altered at all. It looks good like that.
Posted by Blogger Julia :  January 08, 2008

I was laughing so hard when I read this post. You look just lovely in the dress as it is. So slim and fit and pretty. I'd go as is.

I've got nothing. I have no boobs. and unlike you I'm a towering 5' 10" so I look a bit ridiculous. I say go as is. You look stunning, and the dress really is lovely. What about those things you can tape to yourself? I think I wore those once... Maybe to my wedding? I have no ideas though, fresh out.
Posted by Blogger Jessica :  January 08, 2008

In the GTA there is a store called Melmira and they are bra and boob specialists. I couldn't find their webpage. But here is a write up from Toronto Life. They should be able to help you find a bra solution for that dress and perhaps a new french bra to lift, separate and celebrate your hard-working boobs. No part of me is the same post-babies.
Posted by Anonymous Ms.Carson :  January 08, 2008

I know this sounds crazy, but... duct tape. Stand in front of the mirror and tape them underneath and up the sides in a "J" shape. Add extra pieces where needed to enforce. Another spot over the nip. Have Mark make sure they're even.

Doesn't bother my skin or hurt to pull off. And no red marks like those Victoria's Secret stick-um bras.

I have DDs and I've used this technique for certain dresses on event nights for years. Of course, not the best lift. Cheap and quick fix- although admitting it on the internet? Is embarrassing.

That said? Have a fitting. And not at Vicky's. Find a local shop or a nice department store (I love Nordstrom). Also highly recommend
Posted by Anonymous Anonymous :  January 08, 2008

If i had your figure i would go without.
Posted by Anonymous amanda :  January 08, 2008

I have exactly the opposite problem - apparently I stole the family boobs - but nonetheless I will pass on a recommendation for a little Toronto shop called Secrets From Your Sister. Seriously not cheap, but if they can fit my wacky size, they can probably offer you some options.
Posted by OpenID ami-b :  January 08, 2008

You don't look like you need a bra at all.
Although if you do I have had some success with a stick on disposable bra.

Why do we puzzle so over our boobs? No worries, Karla, you look great.
Posted by Blogger H :  January 08, 2008

Just to clear things up. Karla, I think you're beautiful and I am not saying you need implants. If I had your body, believe me, I would have been more than happy. I was just making a self depricating comment about how bad my boobs were before I had them done and how happy I am now....thats all. And I havent even had kids yet! So imagine the help Ill need when that happens!

I wish I could give you some of mine, if you wanted. I've got tons of boobage to spare.

But, I think you look fine as is.
Posted by Blogger Gina :  January 09, 2008

Sadly, I lack expertise in this area. What I can tell you is that your blog formatting has gone weird. It won't fit into my 17" 1440px monitor tonight. I just thought you'd want to know. Of course, it's 2:00 AM, and my computer might be tired. :)
Posted by Blogger Anvilcloud :  January 09, 2008

I think the dress compliments you very nicely. If your search leaves you empty-handed, don't feel ashamed to show off that dress.
Posted by Anonymous Debby M., Chesterfield, VA :  January 09, 2008


I agree you look great. I also am so envious of small boobed women who can feel confident and sexy as they are. Hold your head up high and I think you will knock 'em dead! Although I must admitt I had my boobs done when I was 20 and it's one of the best things I've ever done. Infact I want them re-done after we're done having kids. I was smaller than a AA before and I felt like a boy. They do have a lot of great products out there these days but I think it's all about how you feel inside and you need to either flaunt it or fix it to make yourself the most comfortable.

Well, I have boobs akin to a 12 year old boy's, but I have a pudgy body to go with them. Go figure.

You've gotten some great suggestions; Me myself...I'd go to Vicky's Secret, and ya know, plunk down a gigondo amount of moolah for a bra that will only help to remind me of why I need to save for implants, while at the same time giving my husband a false sense of 'hey I'm going home with some knockers - er I mean - this beautiful chick-a-dee tonight'.

The dress looks fantastic, but I know the feeling of being sans breast tissue of any kind. Areolas and flabby skin do not a pretty sight make.

And, I've missed your blog. I swithched computers, lost the link, and finally found my way back. It was like I had gotten in touch with an old friend again.

Posted by Blogger B :  January 09, 2008

They sell something like the "duct tape trick" in the bra department in stores like wal-mart and target. These things stick to you and are like little bra cups to hold you when you where dresses like that one. The dress is beautiful.
Posted by Anonymous Karen :  January 09, 2008

Chiquits, I've seen you in jeans and a t-shirt, a wedding dress, and otherwise dressed up for a number of things.
You will look smashing in anything, including that little black number, and I personally think you could totally pull off the braless dress.
Maybe get the stickies in case it's a really cold day though! xo
Posted by Blogger Jen & Co. :  January 09, 2008

I love this bra shop and they are very helpful! They were able to suggest bras based on my description and some e-mail conversation. Good luck!
Posted by Blogger Sara :  January 09, 2008

You guys totally rock!

Thank you all for your suggestions and vote of confidence on going “au naturale”.

Not sure if I am ready for that, mostly because, OMG – possibility of wardrobe malfunction!
Posted by Blogger karla :  January 09, 2008

Those famous chicks use tape and/or those things that stick underneath and just hold you up. I have no idea what they're called, b/c I couldn't imagine ever wearing something with a neckline that low. You go girl! You're HOT!
Posted by Blogger Christi :  January 09, 2008

Nooooooice Karla!!!

Here in Aussie land, we have bras (as I'm sure you do there LOL) that stick on to you. I have a maxi dress that is the same style as yours and I just stick the separate 'pads' in..... they work a treat :)


Haha, funny post! I agree with you totally about the boob lose-age after nursing, holy moly! Mine were big before, huge during and not I call them pancakes, they are shrinky and small to me.
Good luck in the bra hunt!
Posted by Blogger Kaili :  January 09, 2008

I so, so, so hope I have this problem when I'm done nursing Aiden. Currently I'm a 36L and still can't find a bra that holds my giant boobs up. Good luck finding a bra - I think the dress is fabulous! :-)
Posted by Blogger Brandy :  January 10, 2008

I would much rather look like a 12 year old boy, than a fat 26 year old woman. I am jealous of your tininess.
Posted by Blogger Christy :  January 10, 2008

I think you look divine, Karla. However, if you are uncomfortable, what about a seamstress? Have her/him ass small cups or a little band that lifts within the existing halter...
Posted by Blogger Amanda :  January 20, 2008

Bras are only good for jogging, running or riding equine, or other animals. Even that can be taken care of with thick enough cloth that fits well enough to keep one from bouncing.

No need for me to mention a need for bra's in the coital bedroom...

The dress looks like something one would wear as a private escort anyway, or in ones personal time.

There is nothing wrong with a natural sag and curve. All this implant crap has been killing women slowly for years. There is maintenance, the first round of implants might not last a lifetime. One may have to go in again for replacement and adjustment, or removal. That's what I heard anyway. Reconstruction is a must for some too, and it is devastating to hear about implants being so questionable.

Let's face it, eventually there will be a need for a bra, and if you do have a need, you might want to get a tailor.
Posted by Anonymous Anonymous :  November 23, 2008


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